Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Where Mobile Payments Meets Life

Me and a couple of my really cool friends are into mobile payments (I'm not alone!). So, when we have life crises that we need to talk about we often revert to where we are most comfortable. It's the best way for us to express our emotions. Well, not actually, but we tried to imagine what it would be like if that really was how do conducted ourselves in life... and I thought ensued was pretty funny. They even suggested that I should make a new blog that would be "Ms Cleo meets mobile payments"...Some excerpts:


J:  no no
tomorrow is fine
also I need to ask your opinion on some stuff
not mobile payments related

me:  oh ok
are you sure?
becuse i do have an opinion on that
im sure.

 J:  ha
it would be funny if you turned it into mobile payments
"So I'm really having a hard time with my life. I don't know what to do."
"Well J...merchants didn't know what to do when they couldn't afford a credit card processor."
"Then square came along."
 Sent at 12:10 AM on Thursday

 me:  lol
i am totally going to do that

 J:  "Ninny. I don't know what to do. I'm totally in love with this girl, but she is married and has a kid."
"You know what that sounds like?"
"Paypal"
"Ebay was in love with PayPal although PayPal was already tied to other systems, but Ebay did what it thought was right and married PayPal."
 Sent at 12:14 AM on Thursday

 me:  lol
omg
ISIS
"sometimes shit just doesnt work out in the beginning, but then, you know, you keep the right partners around you and before you know it, well-- it still maybe wont work out, but you'll feel better"
 Sent at 12:16 AM on Thursday

 J:  haha
I'm going to email this convo to [our other friends]
 
 And finally our response from our friends was:
 
"I'm trying to make a better life for me and my kid but the past keeps coming back to haunt me. How do I move on?"

"You know P, when I have those dark moments and I need direction, I always think - what would Google Wallet do? Would they partner with a couple banks to try out their product in the mass-market, or would they make it an Android-exclusive service that's more focused on helping you manage your loyalty cards than replacing the plastic in your wallet? If you think about it like that, life makes a lot sense."

"Um...ok."
 
I don't know if this is there way of telling me I'm heartless, or if they're just excited that I'm nerdy like them. Regardless, I am constantly reminded about how lucky I am to have people like this in my life.

Monday, May 26, 2014

I Am Wiser Now and Stuff




And I'm back... haha after a little hiatus. A lot has been happening-- with graduation and all that good stuff, and a lot of life changes. Here are some things I've learned over the past couple weeks:

  • There is a direct, inverse correlation between the amount of time left in b-school and the number of social engagements that happen. This is due to a couple of things:
    • People suddenly realize that they might have messed up "the best two years of their lives" and are desperately trying to rectify that. Desperately.
    • People suddenly realize they have a lot of money and by money, I mean debt. Lots of debt. But, on the upside, this is debt that has already occurred, so even though we've learned about sunk cost, we want to get the most "bang for our buck" by "spending it optimally" (read: "bang for your buck" = "as fast as possible before we graduate and loans are not something that just happens every quarter anymore and "spending it optimally" = "buying rounds of fireballs much against your better judgement")
    • The school also plans a couple of these things, but I think we take it upon ourselves to make it more epic every single time than it needs to be. Because. #YOLO.
  •  Breaking up kind of sucks. It brings out the worst in everyone, and it has lasting effects. It's kind of like that awkward picture of you as a tween-- you try to keep burying it (because I deal with my emotions in a healthy way) but it keeps popping up at inopportune moments like you birthday, your wedding and your funeral (yeah I just Up-movied you). Luckily, there's websites like Single Steve that assures me that I'm not alone.
  • Cats know when you're sad. And then they sleep on your face and cuddle you so hard that they wake you up. It's the most adorable thing and the most annoying thing all rolled up into one. Which actually explains cats pretty accurately.
  • The real estate market in San Francisco is insane. Seriously, insane. We're talking first born child in exchange for a 200 square foot efficiency studio (which is code for: sometimes you have to share a bathroom). Also, the Tenderloin district in San Francisco is not as sketchy as I remember.
  • Chelsea Clinton is killin' it. She's definitely part of my generation, and she's been able to take approximately a million different roles (PhD, McKinsey, campaigner, Wall Street and more) and she's been able to handle it with grace. Now she's dedicating more of her time to her parent's foundation (now rebranded with her name prominently in the title) and she makes no excuses and has no regrets about all the changes and decisions she's made. Especially right now, I find her ability to pick up, move on and start over really inspiring.
To new beginnings.

Monday, January 6, 2014

Happy New Year!




Ahh... it's the new year... a whole season dedicated to me making promises to myself to eat better and exercise more and then eat my sorrows away indoors because it's (literally) -36 degrees outside. I don't know how I feel about this whole Polar Vortex thing, but I know for sure that it's definitely cramping my style. With the new year comes the realization that I really only have about 6 more months of school before it's time for me to pack up my bags and literally move my life across the country so that I can be a big kid and pretend to have one of those... what are they called again... oh yeah, careers.

Anywho. The best thing about winter break though is that there is a set amount of time put aside for me to read and listen to music and catch up on magazines and basically do all those "normal people things" that I never actually have time to do. I read a lot during this break because I had lots of downtime between airports and layovers and generally pretending that I'm retired (my favorite thing to do on my vacations) by pretending that I have an unlimited amount of time to do leisurely activities. I read Dan Brown's new book, a Jack Reacher novel, the new Superfreakonomics and this book called 1Q84. I gotta say, 1Q84 really blew me away.

I didn't know really what to expect, but this is, from now on, going to be the bar by which I'm going to measure all other authors, but specifically Japanese authors against. There are a lot of Asian influences in the book, top being the fascination with the concept of time (What is time? Does time flow linearly? What if it didn't? Does time mean different things to different people?) and the idea of fate or destiny. SPOILER ALERT In the story, a serial killer, Aoname, reeling after the loss of a good friend finds a new friend with which to have orgies with strangers. Meanwhile, Tengo, a budding author decides to ghost-rewrite the story of a young, 17 year old girl and submit it for a writing contest, which they win. The young 17 year old girl, Fuka-Eri, is the product of a cult lifestyle and may not be fully human. The cult tries to kill Aoname after they find out she has killed their leader because he is a raging pedophile. Aoname becomes pregnant with Tengo's child even though they've never met. Yup, this story gets strange, but it's a great read to get weird with. Seamless story-telling and a haunting story leaves you asking fundamental stories about what you, the reader, believes. Is there such a thing as fate? Do the ends justify the means? Does true love exist? What is true love, anyway?

Highly recommend. It's kind of an epic read, so make sure to set aside the time, but it's well worth it. I can say that this book has changed the way I think!

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Zombie Spaceship Wastelands




I finished Patton Oswalt's book of the same name quite a few months ago now, but this concept of Zombie, Spaceships and Wastelands keeps bouncing around in my brain.

Knowing what I know, I should technically be a spaceship, but I don't think I can handle the isolation. I don't have the desire for destruction in me to be a Zombie, and I think I have some of that hopefulness that needs to be inherent in a Wasteland.

I think too many of my peers are Zombies and Spaceships. Zombies are aggressive-- they don't take no and they're unapologetic for the chaos and destruction that they inflict. They are stereotypically the embodiment of the selfie/ "me" culture. (See hilarious commentary on old-timey selfies here.) Spaceships really don't like being part of this bigger society, and they would much rather forge it on their own. I think this is fine actually, but it leads to a very isolationist lifestyle, which I don't think is super healthy. I am all for people being more introverted, but I think that spaceships take it to an extreme, and they are inherently running from the things that they can't fix or change instead of trying to change them.

Being a Wasteland isn't actually great either though. You're often in limbo-- stuck in the in-between where you aren't sure and moving forward it sometimes the same thing as moving back. Call it the problem of my generation-- moving up isn't the goal anymore, making it big quick is more often than not the aspirational story, but everything is becoming so much closer, competitive, smaller-- that you see your opportunities shrinking. You've been told your awesome most of your life, but real life is not so nice. But you're hopeful. It's a paradox and although I'm not entirely comfortable with it, I'm still thinking about it.

Monday, April 2, 2012

Love: Opportunities for a Good Pair of Galoshes


I've never been one to wax poetic about the powers of love. Among the flowery language and the boxes of chocolates, I've always been the one that thinks "too many syllables and refined sugar". Maybe it's the mom in me, but I mean, come on, kissing in the rain doesn't even look fun! It looks like you'll catch your death of cold! (Seriously, bring a sweater or an umbrella or some sturdy galoshes.)
Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on your view of things), my upbringing has driven me to become hyper-logical, and when you are hyper-logical, you don't really find yourself wanting to hypothesize on how love can overcome all or how love is all you need. My mind is much more logistically focused than that-- love is nice but what about health? Rent? The status of your DVR? Love may be all you want but may be not what you need. (And let's be honest, we all know that one person who is savagely looking for someone to be with, when they are deeply unready to be themselves-- in my mind, these people in particular, really need to differentiate the ones and needs. But I digress.)
I read a couple of interesting articles recently. Neither is very straightforwardly about love. In fact, one if about quantum mechanics, and the other is about quite the opposite as its about those extracurricular affairs that we group under the big umbrella term of "cheating". Depending on what you'd like to read I'll let you decide whether you want to read the article that made me believe that crazy notion of "true love" -- that crazy "love at first sight" or if you want to read quite possibly the most well written yet deeply depressing article about love, quite possibly ever written. If you feel like having a balanced view-- go ahead-- read both, and then decide for yourself. Bad news first.
In "Why We Cheat" by Lisa Taddeo, she outlines the justifications of a cheater-- being a cheater herself. She interviews multiple men who plainly (and sometimes painfully) lay bare the reasons why they cheat and their feelings afterward ("You don't want to be found out, he says. Guys who will tell you they feel bad, I think that's bullshit. For the most part, you don't want to rock the boat. You've got a house and a kid and a new home-entertainment center and you don't want to saw that world in half."). Potentially the most honest article that I've ever read, it quite openly documents the author's (and others') mixed feelings-- guilt, excitement, justification and disassociation--around their sins. The one emotion that is blatantly missing is remorse, which is probably the most honest part of the article overall.
The second article, "Einstein's 'Spooky Action at a Distance' Paradox Older Than Thought", I feel like I need to give a little context to. It's not so much the article's goal-- entanglement is an older theory than originally thought-- but the meaning of entanglement itself. My protest against the traditional, flowery, overly sentimental and seemingly illogical view of fairy tale love is that it's (in my opinion) an almost magical notion. Everything is perfect-- perfect boy, perfect girl, perfect overlap of time and space, perfectly matched--soul mates. The impossibility, no, the improbability of this perfect confluence of space, time, attributes, things, etc. seems magical-- a once in a never opportunity. And magic isn't real. But every now and then, science shows me I'm wrong-- that there are things out there that can't be explained and that there are things out there that, dare I say it, are dangerously close to being magic. One of these things is quantum entanglement. From this, you get entangled particles. Originally called "spooky action at a distance" by Einstein, "Entanglement occurs when two particles are so deeply linked that they share the same existence....Entangled particles can become widely separated in space. But even so, the mathematics implies that a measurement on one immediately influences the other, regardless of the distance between them".  It travels faster than light, showing an apparent flaw in his theory of relativity. Unexplainable in why it happens. But in my mind, if science on a subatomic level can create two entities that are somehow inextricably linked, two things that fundamentally complement each other to exist--maybe soul mates are possible.
Enjoy.

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Interesting Things I've Learned Recently



Sometimes I get so wrapped up in bigger news/current events that I think I forget to slow down and take a look at some of the interesting little stories that happen. So... here are two stories that I came across recently that I have to share.

In "A Farewell to Arms", I learn that conscription (the act of requiring military service on a national level) is on its way out for most countries (esp. developed ones...Germany, Sweden and Serbia all scrapped their conscription plans in the last year), but in smaller or poorer countries, it continues to linger. In south Sudan, for example, conscription is actually being re-introduced because it is hoped that conscription will be the answer to supplementing their weakened and dwindling militias. Not too interesting. More interesting?

In Thailand, where "ladyboys" is a common occurrence (men who dress/have been surgically altered to be women), conscription is not only being retained, but is also extending to ladyboys. Previously, the government had deemed ladyboys to have "a permanent mental disorder", which would disqualify them (and really all transsexuals and transvestites) from being conscripted. In fact, they had many different types and hierarchies of ladyboys. "Type 1" men are normal, "Type 2" have surgically enhanced breasts, and "Type 3" have had the full sex change. Under new rules, ladyboys could just be a new niche culture in their armed services.

Although I don't think that anyone would try to make the argument that someone would become a ladyboy just to dodge the draft, there are some other interesting side effects. A study in France, which has been phasing out conscription since 1996, shows that male educational achievement fell when conscription was removed. Reason? Many males would apply and go to university in order to dodge the draft. 

In "Herr and Madame, Senor and Mrs.", studies show that international marriages-- involving couples from different nationalities-- is on the uptick. The biggest share of these types of unions is Taiwan, where 13% of wives in 2009, but had peaked in 2003 with 28% of all weddings involving a foreign-born wife. There are a lot of explanations around why this would be. Studies have shown that many Asian women are moving away from marriage, and if they are planning to get married, often put off marriage until 31 or 32. Additionally, due to the traditional preference of sons (and the availability of sex-selective abortion), many Asian countries set themselves up for a serious shortage of brides about 20 years ago. South Korea for example, had 117 boys born for every 100 girls in 1990. Come marryin' age, and it's beginning to look a lot like musical chairs. Vaguely interesting. More interesting?

One of the other reasons they give is that Asian men seem to be looking abroad for wives in the hope that immigrant women will bear them more children. Apparently, this is a real thing. In Europe and America, the fertility rate of new immigrants is higher than average, though is reverts to the local mean within a few years. Ironically, this initial higher fertility rate seems to not hold in Asia, or at least not in South Korea, where the studies were held. Researchers posit that the age gap between husbands and brides might discourage large families, thus offsetting any potential edge given by immigrant status.

So let's hop over to quantum computing. In 1995, the first quantum computer computations were done in a lab.Quantum computing holds a lot of promise because currently, binary computers which operate by transforming information into bits in the form of 0 or 1. This represents itself in the computer as different voltages of electric current, which itself is the result of an electron's charge. Because this charge is a fixed feature of all electrons, each has the same amount of it as any other. But electrons possess other properties such as spin ("up", "down" or a an in-between which is known as superpositions).

Superpositions could potentially fundamentally change the way we view the traditional bit and create what they now call a qubit. When you wrangle particles together in order to add more qubits, this is called entanglement. When you can rope multiple qubits together, then you suddenly get the ability for quantum computing, which is basically the ability to pursue multiple streams of logic (operations) simultaneously to determine an answer. The best part is that qubits operate exponentially, meaning that each qubit allows an exponential more information to flow through the system. Two entangled qubits permit four operations, three permit eight, and etc. To put this into perspective, they've been able to entangle 14 qubits. Entangling 300 qubits would create a computer that could perform more concurrent operations than there are atoms in the visible universe.

Right. Unfortunately, entanglement and superposition are delicate. Any disturbance causes qubits to "decohere" (act cray-cray and otherwise shed the properties that we're trying to harness). However, more recent research from the University of Copenhagen indicates that, by trapping electrons between two semi-conducting crystals, they are able to join them together to form qubits. Other research from the University of California, Santa Barbara indicates that superconductors can create paired electrons, which then begin to behave like single particles while simultaneously (potentially) moving in two directions at once. Create a closed loop super conductor (they've made 5) and you've got yourself a superconducting qubit.

Oh the future. Ladyboys and the army, marriage and superconducting qubits, oh my.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

Click. Drag to Heart. Checkout.



I'd like to start today with some logic exercises. Working in the business world is hard. Dating is hard. Finding a date is harder. Therefore, it logically follows that being in the business of helping people find dates would be hell on earth, right? The Economist ran an article ("The Modern Matchmakers") about internet dating and it kind of blue my mind. So now that we're released from the clutches of meddling mothers and (if you're Asian) meddling friends, family friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, god-parents, neighbours down the street and the occasional childhood friend from 20 years ago that just so happens to show up to the yearly holiday party (this is not me being racist at all but rather me just being accurate-- all of the above listed folks have at one point tried to give me an "introduction to a really nice boy... who has a great personality/ job/ face/ family/ intellect/ sense of humor".)
The multi-billion dollar online dating industry claim that they have an upper hand on all of my relatives/friends because they pair me up by my preferences-- preferences that I actually get input into, because I'm the one that checks those radial buttons on the site. Now this might be more effective than say, having my aunt who hasn't seen me since I was 10 suggesting a "nice boy" that I have "so much in common with" (He prefers the yellow dump truck too? His favourite color is also red? His favourite thing in the world is also pizza and cookies 'n' cream ice cream? Okay, to be fair that last sentence is more truth than it is lie. You caught me.) that happens to live in Hong Kong. (Preference: Must live within 20 miles of my zipcode.)
But is this really all that important? A survey of 20,000 people showed a strong correlation between couples with similar personalities and happiness, more so than those who had "dissimilar" personalities (criteria for judgement of this was not explained, so of course I have questions about the defined criteria). However, the difference was not huge--it was 0.5%.
Well what about the choices? I mean, anyone who has "been dared" (a.k.a. drank some wine with friends and then started a profile amidst of torrent of giggles...and they say that "sleepovers" stop after a certain age. They're wrong. They just involve more booze and the internet. The giggling, squealing and maturity level are pretty much the same. Sometimes they end by friends going home to their husbands though. So, one slight difference.)  to open up an online profile has seen that, within days, you are usually avalanched by a million "pokes", "winks" or whatever vague physical gesture they choose to use. But ah-ha! Science wins again.
In study after study, science has proven that people actually prefer to have a smaller sample to choose from when making "consumer choices". Call it predictable irrationality (shout out Dan Ariely!). People are overwhelmed if they have dozens of choices, and they are more likely to walk away without "purchasing" anything. (I'm putting some of these terms in quotes because I don't want anyone to think that I'm encouraging sexual trafficking.)
So in conclusion, internet dating, like the cosmetics industry, is a multi-billion dollar industry that may not give people as large of an edge as people think. Shocker. I will make an argument for convenience though. I've never actually seriously used online dating sites, but I did like being able to, from home in my pajamas, decide who I'd like to go on a date with that weekend. It was like an Amazon.com for people (Ugh. I hate myself right now...also, any worries I had about sounding like I'm condoning sexual trafficking...very real.).  I guess I'll just stick with meeting people IRL (in real life for those of you who weren't dungeon masters or addicted to WoW) and determine their a/s/l F2F. Especially as models continue to get smarter (Seriously? A history of art major from Cambridge modelling for Chanel? And they can get paid $75K- $1.5M per shoot? Can I just quit the sexual competition now?), I probably need to outrun these models to get to the available bachelors first if I want a fighting chance.

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Just Once In Life...We Should Stop Making Gender-Specific Lists


Now that the new year is in full swing, and resolutions are flying around madly and being broken almost as fast...I've been trying to catch up on my magazine reading. In the most recent issue of Glamour (yeah, that's right. I read Popular Science, Discover, Fortune, Fast Company and The Economist. I also read Glamour, Lucky and--most embarrassingly--People. I try to be equal opportunity in my magazine reading) that I read (which was the December issue...I'm a bit behind alright?) there was a very interesting article entitled "Just Once in Life, Every Woman Should", which was supposed to give me some tips on how to live my life in a more interesting way. There's only three bullets, which I like (Efficiency. I likes it), but I couldn't help but notice that these things aren't really what I expected nor are they specifically woman-only things to do. So here's my rewrite:

  • Thing to do: Be Wildly, Passionately Pursued
    • Justification: Women nowadays are too forthcoming! In the author's day, "[women] were so unlikely to show our hand, women ended up seeming like mysterious creatures...Men value things they have to work hard for, and they tend to become very creative when the straight-ahead approach isn't helping...for the sheer romance and surprise of it, not to mention the delicious boost of ego that comes along with it-- is the chance to be pursued: desperately, wildly, with complete abandon"
    • Rewrite: Be Wildly, Passionately Pursued...and Know When to Be the Pursuer
    • Rewrite Justification: Alright people. This is the 21st century. I hear where the author's coming from, but with all due respect, there's a difference between enjoying the propriety and nostalgia of a time long past and playing hard to get just for attention. This is the only one of the three that I pretty much outright disagree with. We've (women) have worked hard to get where we are! And trust me, there are plenty of women who still do things "by the book", let's not encourage more women to conform to these more passive roles and let the aggressive girls have their day. As for the gentlemen, know that your efforts are appreciated, regardless of whatever type of girl you decide to pursue
  • Thing to do: Be a Fan of Something-Anything!
    • Justification: "You have to allow yourself to be more than just an audience, leaning back and watching. You need to lean in-- it's the best way to feel joy, outrage, betrayal, the full range of geeked-out excitement beyond the simpler pleasures of thumbs up and thumbs down"
    • Rewrite: N/A
    • Rewrite Justification: Completely agree. Just do it. The only thing I would add is that maybe we should expand your geeked-out-ness to something beyond the Lady Gaga and Game of Thrones mentions in this article. I am a HUGE Alias (spy show starring Jennifer Gardner) fan myself, and it has given me some great conversations. With random people. There's something to be said about bonding over something that seems as trivial as a TV show with another true fan-- it adds a spark to your day, you make an instant friend, and who else could relate to "Do you remember that time when Sydney....Can you believe?! I mean, who saw that her roommate was a secretly an evil cyborg twin trying to kill her?!". That being said. Feel free to freak out with your geek out over whatever you want. I really like mobile technology (as you may have gathered), I also really like reading about quantum/theoretical physics (who cares if its not applicable yet?)...so do whatcha want. And enjoy it to the fullest
  • Thing to do: Be Friends with a Much Older Woman
    • Justification: "In today's world, we can't always be near family or live near those with whom we grew up, which makes friendships-- particularly intergenerational ones-- lifesavers...Without my cadre of girlfriends who have "been there, done that--20 years ago to be exact," I would have been reinventing the wheel with every new relationship, job offer and bump in the road"
    • Rewrite: Be Friends with a Variety of People
    • Rewrite Justification: This one seems kind of like common sense to me. Yes, there are certain bonds that woman-woman relationships have that are a godsend. Yes, you should have a variety of ages of friends because the "been there, done that" is incredibly helpful. However, let's not limit this rule to women. People (men and women) should seek a variety of friendships (men and women) to learn from multiple perspectives and hopefully see new points of view. Older friends will definitely provide more guidance and advice (I would never be where I am today without their help!) but your younger friends also remind you to constantly be hopeful, idealistic, and to continue to have awe at the little things that you maybe have taken for granted (have you ever gone to the zoo with a 6-year-old? It's more exciting than a promotion, a vacation in a new city and a new years eve party rolled into one. And it's awesome). Both perspectives, I think, are equally valuable to living a well-balanced life
So that's it. In summary-- this article (and my rewrites) really won't say anything that you wouldn't have been able to figure out yourself, but it's nice to be reminded. Live aggressively or more traditionally, but be true to yourself. Chivalary should never be dead. Live exuberantly and passionately. There's a lot out there to be passionate about! Make friends and be friendly-- find ways to help others/know when to ask for help and try to maintain your sense of wonder. Happy new year everyone! Hope this is the best one yet.